How To Create More Trust
Sometimes life feels uncertain doesn't it? Like we don't quite know what the next steps to take are. Like we think we're adulting correctly but who the heck really knows. Like we are unsure of ourselves and our place within this vast Universe.
We want to control things...the outcome, the result. We want to know what's coming up... so that we can be prepared for it. Or we're in such a good place right now that we fear that something may uproot us soon.
Humans like certainty. And yet the world is mostly uncertain.
That's both what makes life feel amazing and incredibly tough. Our brains try to create patterns. We thrive in familiarity. We strive for comfort and sameness and habits. But we all know that growth only happens in the new, and in the uncomfortable.
Therefore, we must train ourselves to step out of comfort and into uncertainty. One of the best ways that I know how to do that is by cultivating trust--capital T, trust.
Trust in who you are.
Trust in where you're going.
Trust that it will all work out.
Trust that even if problems arise, it will be ok.
Trust in a higher power.
Trust in yourself.
The thing is, there are two ways to look at the world. One is as though you are supporting and trusting and that the Universe (God, Source, however you call it) has your back and the other is that you're alone, in fear and scarcity and nothing has your back. There's no way to prove either. Consequently you have a choice in how you view the world and how you live your life.
Albert Einstein said it best:
“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”
That being the case, why would you not choose to live your life as though everything is a miracle?
And yet I fully understand how easy it is to get distracted, get caught up in fear and veer away from trust. Bills, work, responsibilities, always having to be on all gets in the way.
Here are some tools for creating more trust in your life:
1. Evaluate your environment. What type of media are you consuming? Do you have things in your environment that help you to feel abundant, supported and grateful (such as empowering mantras, lovely things and vision boards) or is your environment stressful, taxing and filled with fear? Look around and eliminate what's causing you stress and anxiety (whether that be what you consume on social media, the mail you get or the things you have in your home).
2. Start a journaling practice for introspection. We can learn to evaluate what makes us tick and then we can set ourselves up for success. But it's only through introspection that we can know what our strengths and weaknesses are and how we can set ourselves up for growth and expansion.
Socrates said "An unexamined life is not worth living." Examine your life so that you can create more of what serves you.
3. Meditate. Slowing down in meditation rewires the brain and gets us out of fight or flight mode (sympathetic nervous system) and into the rest, rejuvenation and healing mode (parasympathetic nervous system).
4. Focus on your heart and breath. Breathing into your heart also helps to relax your nervous system and full, deep breathing powers up the body with fresh oxygen. Most modern humans take too shallow of breaths which inhibits a whole bunch of functionality within the body.
5. Do things that make you feel good. Yoga, dance, movement, baths, massage, play, working out. Spend a little bit of time each day focused on something that you enjoy. Filling up your own cup will enable you to feel as though you are supported.
6. Invest in yourself. When you start to demonstrate that you are worthy, it's like a self-fulfilling prophecy, more feelings of worthiness flow in. And when you invest in yourself, slowly and over time, you'll learn to trust and believe in yourself. Invaluable stuff.
Repeat after me: everything is working out for my highest good.
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